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Positive Affirmations for You to Use the Week of January 30th – February 5th

Happy Sunday, friends!

I hope you had a good week, and that you (depending on where you live) didn’t get too effected by the cold and snow! I’m in Northern Virginia right now while I’m doing PHP, and our forecast for the weekend was pretty much “IDK. Could be anything.”, but luckily we didn’t get hit very hard. We just had a mixture of snow and rain that I had to drive in for the first time in years (I think. It’s possible I drove in the snow last year, but my memory is shot.). I know that my family and friends in New England got hit pretty hard. That’s one thing I like about Florida, the lack of blizzards that force you to exist in a frozen tundra.

But, we do have downpours unlike anything I’ve really ever seen in the afternoons of summer… almost every day. Driving in that gives me awful anxiety.

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I made it through my first week of PHP! It was absolutely exhausting, but also really good I’m noticing that I’m a little less depressed, and that I’m able to recognize and be mindful of some of my unhealthy coping mechanisms. I’m still struggling, but I’m grateful for the small improvements I’ve seen. I’m hoping that this week, we’ll start tackling some medication changes (I had to get some tests done first) and hopefully I’ll see even more improvements.

Having my affirmations has been so helpful during this week, and every week. I hope they are for you, too.

When I share the weekly affirmations, I share them in the order that I personally will be using them (the first is for Sunday, the second is for Monday, the third is for Tuesday, etc.), but I really hope that you will take them, and use them however you need. What works for me might not work for you, and that’s totally okay. Take what you need, save some for a rainy day, and leave whatever doesn’t serve you.

I hope that you (and I!) remember to speak kindly to yourself this week, and take time for self care. You are worthy, you are enough, you deserve your own kindness.

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  1. I am comfortable in my own skin.
  2. I embrace all that I am.
  3. I do the best I can, and it is enough.
  4. I trust that there are brighter and better days ahead.
  5. My anxiety is not what defines me or controls me.
  6. I am ready for whatever changes life brings me.
  7. I make room for who I am, and who I am becoming.
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Positive Affirmations for You to Use the Week of January 23rd-29th

Happy Sunday!

I hope that you had a good week, and made some time this weekend for self-care, because you deserve it.

This week was… rough. Personally.

I had my intake assessment for PHP on Tuesday, and then didn’t hear back from them until I called on Friday, just to discover my insurance had refused to cover it because “it wasn’t an emergency” and I’m out of state.

Luckily we called up my insurance and explained the situation (okay… my mom did it because I was a wreck) and they agreed to cover treatment. My first day is tomorrow. Send all the positive vibes.

My mental health hasn’t been good. I spent yesterday and the day before in bed. My depression is becoming heavier and heavier, and I’m really glad to be starting treatment soon.

It feels like I’m drowning, and I’m ready to get a floatation device.

Some things that have been helping me are cuddling my mom’s new dog, Sasha, reading rom-coms, watching Monk with my mom, keeping an attainable morning routine, and walking Sasha around the neighborhood. But honestly, there are days (*cough* yesterday *cough*) when doing any of those just aren’t possible.

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And on those days, I hold on to self-compassion, and remember that I haven’t even started treatment yet. I’m sick right now, and I can’t expect myself to thrive every day.

I hope these affirmations help the way you speak to yourself, the way they help me speak to myself. I always put them in the order that I’ll be using them the upcoming week (1 is Sunday, 2 is Monday, 3 is Tuesday, etc.) but please use them in whatever order/way is best for you. Take what you need, and leave the rest.

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I hope you enjoy the last bit of the weekend, or if you don’t have weekends off (shout out to my fellow service workers!), I hope you prioritize finding time for self-care every day.

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You are loved and worthy!

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  1. My health is more important than beauty standards
  2. I am loved and appreciated by the people in my life.
  3. I am proud of all my hard work.
  4. I am stronger than I know.
  5. I am more than just my body.
  6. I have come so far
  7. I deserve help, support, and to have my needs met.
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Positive Affirmations for You to Use the Week of November 7th – 13th

Hi friends!

I hope you’ve had a good couple of weeks. The last month has been kind of rough for me, and I took a break from Instagram and blogging. Unfortunately, just over two weeks ago, we had to say goodbye to our beloved family pooch, Thecla. Thecla had been part of the family since I was sixteen, and I’m so grateful to have gotten to emerge into adulthood with my sweet girl. She was so loved and is dearly missed.

The time leading up to and following her passing was extremely difficult, as we knew that she was passing, but we didn’t know when exactly, so my anxiety was on high alert for a few weeks. I also of course was grieving Thecla’s loss following her death, and because of that, I was very overwhelmed and in survival mode. But, I’m starting to see the light and it’s getting a little easier to be alive again.

With that being said, I’m back to blogging and sharing weekly affirmations! Starting today! Yay!

*Most* Sundays, I share the affirmations on here (and on Instagram!) that I will be using for the upcoming work. I share them in the order that I will be using them (1 is Sunday, 2 is Monday, 3 is Tuesday, etc.) and then share them daily on my Instagram story. Of course, I hope that you will use them in whatever way works best for you, whatever that means to you!

I hope you make sure to take some time to rest and take care of yourself today, and I’ll see you next week!

You are worthy of your love and kindness!

  1. I trust in myself.
  2. My well-being is always a priority.
  3. I am going to be okay.
  4. I am growing.
  5. Not everyone will like me, and that’s okay.
  6. I always prioritize self-care.
  7. My worth is not dependent on the appearance or size of my body.
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Positive Affirmations for You to Use the Week of October 3rd – 9th

Hi friends!

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Happy October! Since I grew up in New England, this is one of my absolute favorite times of year. The changing leaves, flavors, activities, and movies are just a few reasons why! Now that I live in Florida… I don’t get to see the leaves as often (though I will be making a trip north in two weeks and will be able to take in allllll the fall foliage, which I am thrilled about.) and the activities and food just aren’t the same when the weather is warm.

Although I love this time of year, historically, this is also when my mental health starts to go downhill. With the changing weather, and shorter days, and less sun, and pressure of the holidays and having a “good fall” and “good winter”, and wanting to do more indoor activities (crocheting and reading were made for autumn days with candles!), it is easy for my mental health to decline.

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I’ve accepted that entering another depressive episode soon is a real possibility, but I’m also doing everything I can to stay mentally healthy. Obviously using my skills helps, but it doesn’t guarantee that I won’t have another depressive episode.

One of the things I do every single day for my mental health is practice positive affirmations, and at the beginning of every week, I share what affirmations I’ll be using with you!

I always share them in the order that I’ll be using them (1 is Sunday, 2 is Monday, 3 is Tuesday, etc.) but I encourage you to use them in whatever order or way best serves your needs.

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I hope you all have a great week, and remember to show yourself kindness.

  1. I am proud of all my hard work.
  2. I am not ashamed of my nourishment or hunger.
  3. I treat my body with kindness and gentleness.
  4. I am stronger than my bad days.
  5. I am open to change.
  6. Every day, in every way, I am growing.
  7. I give myself the compassion I give to others.
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Positive Affirmations for You to Use the Week of August 22nd – 28th.

Happy Sunday, friends!

I hope that this past week went well, (well… as well as it could during these unprecedented times.) and that you’re ready to start this upcoming week with some positive affirmations!

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Every Sunday, I share seven affirmations that I will be using that upcoming week. I always share them in the order that I will be using them (1 is Sunday, 2 is Monday, 3 is Tuesday, etc.), but I hope that you will use them in whatever way works best for or resonates with you!

Can you believe we only have just over a week left in August?? 2020 went by so slow for me, and now 2021 is just zipping by. I would just like time to move at regular, steady pace, please!

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Have a great week, and I’ll be back next week!

  1. I am open to change.
  2. I am becoming the best version of myself.
  3. I can say no and not people please.
  4. I am grateful for all that my body is capable of.
  5. My worth is not dependent on the appearance or size of my body.
  6. I am proud of how far I’ve come.
  7. I am confident that I have the resilience to get through anything that comes my way.
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body positivity · Health at Every Size · mental health · personal life

Why I Want to Change My Relationship with My Body & Food

Katie, a fat white woman, is laughing with her hand on her hip. She is standing outside and wearing denim shorts and a light purple top.

Trigger Warnings: Disordered eating, intentional weight loss, emotional abuse, self harm, suicidality, suicidal thoughts, mental illness.

When I was a kid, diet culture was a family tradition. Almost every adult around me had a toxic relationship with their body and food. I was surrounded by sugar-free candies, Sweet-N-Low, I can’t Believe it’s Not Butter, Skinny Cow, Crystal Light, and diet sodas. In fact, I really thought that Sweet-N-Low and Diet Sodas were “adult foods”. Like when you become an adult, you learn to drive… and bein putting Sweet-N-Low in your coffee and drinking Coke Zero instead of regular Coke.

Hating your body and having a toxic relationship with food was a normal part of adulthood in my eyes. I watched my grandmas and parents and aunts try Atkins and Weight Watchers and Jenny Craig and go from Pilates Classes to Zumba classes. As a kid, I was always told that (despite being “chubby”) my body was perfect, but when you see the adults with body similar to yours doing everything they can to change them… even kids are smart enough to read between the lines.

When I finished meals, I would sneak food at night. I would quietly slip downstairs and binge eat whatever food we had. I had come to learn that the less food you could survive on, the better. So anything more was shameful and done in secret. This binge eating behavior was one that has followed me throughout my life.

It also didn’t help that as a preteen, my gramma brought me to Barnes and Noble, told me to pick whatever book I wanted, but then presented me with “The Diet for Teens Only”. True story. She also would insist on healthy snacks when my sister and I visited while my grandfather snuck us candies and ice cream. This was just more proof to me that eating foods like this was something that should be done in secret.

I’m not blaming my relationship with my body on my family. I truly believe that they were doing the best that they could, and diet culture is a cruel mistress. I just think that it set the foundation and core belief in my life that fatness is to be avoided at all costs. Of course, being bullied in high school and being very aware that I was the biggest of my friends throughout my life.

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In 2016, I lost a substantial amount of weight. And honestly, losing that weight felt like it was proving my beliefs true. Around the same time I lost weight, I was in my very first relationship, I had moved to a new state, I got to travel to Europe, I graduated from college, I was making new friends, I received more compliments about my appearance than I ever had before…

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And I began telling myself the story that I had bettered myself. I was better because I was thinner.

But life wasn’t as perfect as it seemed, even to me. My relationship was far from perfect, and to keep and maintain the weight loss, I was barely eating and exercising for hours a day, while still binge eating in secret. I asked my ex if he would still love me if I gained the weight back, and his response was “You won’t gain the weight back.”

Because of this, I was terrified to gain the weight back, and was doing everything in my power to continue losing the weight and keep it off.

But surprise surprise… the weight loss was not sustainable. Especially after experiencing trauma. I gained the weight back.

And in the years that have followed, I’ve gained more and more weight.

When I underwent more trauma in 2019, I gained weight. When COVID hit and I was isolated for almost six months, I gained more weight.

But despite this all, I don’t want to try to lose weight. What I’ve learned is that my story is not unique. Oftentimes, weight loss is not sustainable and the majority of diets are unsuccessful or unsustainable.

Something else I’ve learned is that when we talk about the importance of health, we need to include mental health in that conversation. Mental health IS health. If I push myself to try to lose weight, is there actually a war for me to do so without sacrificing my mental health? No. There’s not.

My relationship with food is still difficult. I still struggle with binge eating, specifically using it as an unhealthy coping mechanism. I’ve realized that emotional eating isn’t bad in itself, but when bingeing is used to excessively numb emotions… that’s the problem (at least personally.).

This leads to guilt and shame, and oftentimes, guilt and shame lead to more binge eating. It is such a vicious cycle.

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But this is why I am actively trying to improve my relationship with food and my body. My body has been through so much, and she does so much for me. She also happens to be fat. Why is it that society is so hyper-focused on the fat part instead of all that our bodies are capable of?

Why is fat considered one of the worst things a person can be?

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Positive Affirmations for You to Use The Week of July 4th – 9th

Hi friends!

We’ve made it to July! Aannd it just occurred to me that that means we’re over halfway through 2021! Is that wild or is that wild? I’m so grateful for all of you that have stuff around and continued to read my posts, no matter how sporadic or sparse. I am hopeful that this month I will be able to fall back into a healthy routine and will be more regular about posting!

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But, what better way to start the new month than with some positive affirmations? (okay, I’m sure some of ya’ll are thinking “a book review for the first time in over a month would be nice.” and yes, I do agree with you. They’re coming. I’m months behind, but I’m trying to make it happen!) Here are this week’s, and I hope you find them useful.

See you next week!

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  1. My worth as a human being does not depend on my body being thin.
  2. I deserve a healthy and loving romantic relationship.
  3. I approach obstacles fearlessly.
  4. I give myself the love I am worthy of.
  5. I enjoy spending time with me.
  6. I do the best I can to get through difficult times.
  7. I courageously accept all parts of myself and embrace my strengths and vulnerability.
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mental health awareness month 2021 · positive affirmations · Self Care

Positive Affirmations for the Week of May 16th – May 22nd.

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Hi friends!

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I’m sorry this post is so late, but to be completely honest, my mental health has been in a rough spot lately. I’m working with my therapist to feel better, and I’m slowly getting back to where I want to be.

I didn’t want to leave ya’ll hanging completely, so even though it’s a few days late, here are the affirmations for this week.

As always, I’m sharing the affirmations in the order that I’m using them (1 is Sunday, 2 is Monday, etc.), but I encourage you to use them in whatever order/way works best for you.

I hope the rest of your week is fantastic, and I’ll be back on Saturday (hopefully!) with next week’s affirmations.

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  1. I always prioritize self-care.
  2. My well-being is my first priority.
  3. I do not have to feel guilty for saying no.
  4. I nourish my body without fear of weight gain.
  5. I am okay as I am, and I can change.
  6. I am capable of creating my very best life.
  7. I courageously embrace all parts of myself, and embrace my strengths and vulnerability.
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body positivity · Health at Every Size · Intuitive Eating · Self Care

Intuitive Eating: What It Is and Why I Follow It.

Note: There are some affiliate links, as well as talk of disordered eating and exercise, and specific weights. If these topics are upsetting to you, I recommend skipping this post.

Intuitive Eating. This time last year, I had only just discovered it and had become interested in it. Now, I’m still a baby Intuitive Eater who struggles with it almost every day, but I like to think that I understand and appreciate it more than I did.

I first stumbled upon the philosophy of Intuitive Eating while listening to Christy Harrison’s amazing podcast, “Food Psych“. Christy is an anti-diet dietician who uses her podcast to talk about all things related to diet culture and food freedom (two phrases that seemed foreign to me last year) and to discuss life and the idea of Health at Every Size with different guests. Someone asked me recently how I found Christy’s podcast, and while I’m not certain… I think it may have been while searching for diet and weight loss podcasts on Spotify. While it is most definitely not the kind of podcast I was looking for at the time, it was the podcast I needed. I’m so grateful to Christy and her guests to introducing me to the radical idea of loving my body exactly as it is.

You might be wondering, “Okay Katie… I’m glad this random lady changed your life with her podcast… but what exactly is Intuitive Eating?” I’m not an expert by any means. I’m still learning more every day, but I still would like to share with you what I know, and how it’s helped me.

Intuitive Eating, at its core, is trusting that your body knows what it needs in regards to nourishment, nutrition, and movement. In their book, Intuitive Eating, Evelyn Trible and Elyse Resch write: “

Intuitive Eating provides a new way of eating that is ultimately struggle-free and healthy for your mind and body. It is a process that unleashes the shackles of dieting (which can only lead to deprivation, rebellion, and rebound weight gain). It means getting back to your roots – trusting your body and its signals.

Intuitive Eating by Evelyn Trible and Elyse Resch

In short, instead of listening to exterior cues (how much you worked out, time of day, diet rules, beliefs about what you should eat), Intuitive Eating teaches you to listen to interior cues from your body.

More recently, there was some backlash about Intuitive Eating from Jillian Michaels, who is best known for her “tough love” (though I would rather call it bullying) on the TV Show “The Biggest Loser”. In short, she pretty much said that Intuitive Eating is only eating unhealthy foods. While I understand why people (including members of my family) might think that, this idea is forgetting the root of Intuitive Eating: listening to your body.

Yes, Intuitive Eating does require you to give yourself unconditional permission to eat any and all foods (no food rules), as you become more in-tune to your body, you will begin to realize that sometimes, your body wants things like vegetables, and lean meats. Sure, other days it wants pizza and McDonalds. But not all the time. As you learn your body’s cues and feelings, you will begin to realize that sometimes, the “unhealthy” foods don’t always feel so great.

For example, since I’ve begun Intuitive Eating, I’ve learned that some milk products make me feel really yucky. Not all milk products, but some. Cheese? Fine. Plain milk? Not so great. Butter? Fine. Yogurt? Fine. Ice Cream? Sadly, not so great sometimes. Intuitive Eating has taught me that drinking plain milk with my cereal and eating copious amounts of ice cream can leave me feeling gross. My body simply doesn’t like it. So, I switched to oat milk with my cereal, and get frozen yogurt or dairy free frozen desserts in lieu of ice cream when I can. I’m not going to lie, sometimes I still eat ice cream. But I know there’s a chance I won’t feel good after, and that I may regret it after.

For years, I tried different diets and “lifestyle changes” to lose weight. The one time I lost a substantial amount of weight, I would tell people that I wasn’t doing anything differently, but would spend hours a day at the gym, walk 15,000 steps at work, and binge eat a pint of Halo Top Ice Cream (around 400 calories) for each meal of the day. I lost around 80 pounds and weighed the least I ever did. But… looking back, that wasn’t an attainable lifestyle. In fact, it was a very disordered lifestyle. Since then, I’ve gained back the weight I lost, and then some. For a long time, that really devastated me. I saw it as a character flaw, or a lack of discipline. Now, I know that my body has carried me through trauma and life changes. She is strong, and beautiful, and I am no longer starving her, but instead working in harmony with her.

Food and exercise have become gifts that I give to my body. Sometimes that gift is my favorite salad and a 30 minute Peloton class, other times it’s my favorite dessert and taking a rest day to recover.

With Intuitive Eating, I have learned to really, truly love myself. Not the me who “could be” if I just lost weight or the me who was when I was at my lowest weight, but the me right now. The me who wears a size 24 jeans and loves riding the Peloton at the gym and whose favorite food is ice cream and who sometimes has the motivation and energy to meal prep. And that self love that I have discovered is a better gift than any diet could ever give me.

body positivity · mental health · positive affirmations · Self Care

Positive Affirmations for the Week of April 18th – 24th

Hi friends! Happy Saturday! I hope that you’re enjoying your weekend so far and had a wonderful week! I’m back with this upcoming week. I hope practicing these are just as beneficial for you as they are for me! As always, I personally will practice them in the order they’re in, but you’re free to use them however best serves you. I’ll see you next week!

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  1. I am going to be okay.
  2. I am grateful for all that my body is capable of.
  3. I am here to accomplish amazing things, and I share my gifts with the world.
  4. I let go of the fear and doubt within me.
  5. I am loved, no matter how I feel.
  6. My health is more important than beauty standards.
  7. I always prioritize self care.
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