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Review | It Ends With Us

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It Ends With Us by Colleen Hoover
Atria Books, 2016
Romance
385 pages
4/5 Stars

Trigger Warnings: Emotional Abuse, Homelessness, Physical Abuse, Sexual Assault.

GoodReads Synopsis

Sometimes it is the one who loves you who hurts you the most.

Lily hasn’t always had it easy, but that’s never stopped her from working hard for the life she wants. She’s come a long way from the small town in Maine where she grew up
— she graduated from college, moved to Boston, and started her own business. So when she feels a spark with a gorgeous neurosurgeon named Ryle Kincaid, everything in Lily’s life suddenly seems almost too good to be true.

Ryle is assertive, stubborn, maybe even a little arrogant. He’s also sensitive, brilliant, and has a total soft spot for Lily. And the way he looks in scrubs certainly doesn’t hurt. Lily can’t get him out of her head. But Ryle’s complete aversion to relationships is disturbing. Even as Lily finds herself becoming the exception to his “no dating” rule, she can’t help but wonder what made him that way in the first place.

As questions about her new relationship overwhelm her, so do thoughts of Atlas Corrigan — her first love and a link to the past she left behind. He was her kindred spirit, her protector. When Atlas suddenly reappears, everything Lily has built with Ryle is threatened.

Review

Whoa. This book just… wow. I read it for book club, and until this month, the majority of our reads have been light fluffy reads.

This was the complete opposite. This was a heavy read that covered heavy topics. I went in pretty blind to this, so all that I really knew about the book was what the synopsis told me.

Despite it being a difficult read, it was a smooth one. I felt like I was devouring the book in no time at all. This was my first Colleen Hoover book, but I’ve heard that a lot of her books read like this.

As a survivor of emotional abuse, so many parts resonated with me, and I thought that Hoover did a fantastic job of showing why abuse survivors don’t “just leave” without victimizing the survivor or villainizing the abuser. Both Lily and her abuser are complex characters with flaws and strengths.

There was one part where the abuser reveals some past trauma, which shed some light onto why he does what he does. It was done in a delicate way, not excusing his behavior (there is never an excuse for abusive behavior), rather explaining it. This is a sad reality of abuse that I appreciated being mentioned in the book.

The one aspect that really made me laugh were the references to Ellen DeGeneres. Those aged like sour milk, unfortunately.

Perfect for late night readers who need a good cry.

Rating: 4 out of 5.

5 Stars · Book Reviews · non-fiction · Reading

Review | Wordslut

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Wordslut by Amanda Montell
Harper Wave, 2019
Non-Fiction
304 pages
5/5 Stars

GoodReads Synopsis:

The word “bitch” conjures many images for many people but is most often meant to describe an unpleasant woman. Even before its usage to mean a female canine, bitch didn’t refer to gender at all—it originated as a gender-neutral word meaning genitalia. A perfectly innocuous word devolving into a female insult is the case for tons more terms, including hussy, which simply meant “housewife,” or slut, which meant “untidy” and was also used to describe men. These words are just a few among history’s many English slurs hurled at women. 

Amanda Montell, feminist linguist and staff features editor at online beauty and health magazine Byrdie.com, deconstructs language—from insults and cursing to grammar and pronunciation patterns—to reveal the ways it has been used for centuries to keep women form gaining equality. Ever wonder why so many people are annoyed when women use the word “like” as a filler? Or why certain gender neutral terms stick and others don’t? Or even how linguists have historically discussed women’s speech patterns? Wordslut is no stuffy academic study; Montell’s irresistible humor shines through, making linguistics not only approachable but both downright hilarious and profound.

Review:

I have no idea how I found this book, but I am so glad that I did.

A really big part of my personality are the facts that I’m a raging feminist, and also that I majored in English in college. This book perfectly married two of my maybe four personality traits.

Montell uses humor to explain the history of the English language and the patriarchal background behind many of the words we use.

One of the most interesting parts for me was when she debunked myths behind women’s speech patterns. Different speech patterns that are commonly used by women are often looked at as being ‘unprofessional’, but Montell explains why this isn’t necessarily true. It reminded me of the time a former coworker told me that she didn’t get a promotion because our male manager told her she used the word ‘like’ too much. I now know that using ‘like’ a lot in speech has nothing to do with the speaker’s intelligence, or ability to communicate effectively, and more to do with what exactly they are trying to communicate.

Another part I loved was the part about the history of swearing. I swear like a pirate. My favorite word starts with an ‘f’ and has four letters, and I use it more than is socially appropriate. I also really don’t care. It’s the only word that can properly express my excitement, frustration, sadness, etc. Thank God for the ‘f’ word.

But. Did you know. There is a HUGE difference behind why women swear and why men swear? For men, it’s a normal part of speech, and is rarely given a second thought. When women swear, they are doing so to express a personality, their individuality, humor, and/or a negotiation of their femininity.

I could honestly go on forever about this book. It was so interesting, and I learned so much. I guess I have to put every feminist book about language on my waiting list at the library.

Perfect for Feminist Word Nerds and Washed Up English Majors.

Rating: 5 out of 5.

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5 Stars · Book Reviews · non-fiction · politics · Reading

Review | Where the Light Enters

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Where the Light Enters by Jill Biden
Flatiron Books, 2019
Non-Fiction
210 pages
5/5 Stars

GoodReads Synopsis

An intimate look at the love that built the Biden family and the delicate balancing act of the woman at its center.

“How did you get this number?” Those were the first words Jill Biden spoke to U.S. senator Joe Biden when he called her out of the blue to ask her on a date.

Growing up, Jill had wanted two things: a marriage like her parents’ – strong, loving, and full of laughter – and a career. An early heartbreak had left her uncertain about love, until she met Joe. But as they grew closer, Jill faced difficult questions: How would politics shape her family and professional life? And was she ready to become a mother to Joe’s two young sons?

She soon found herself falling in love with her three “boys,” learning to balance life as a mother, wife, educator, and political spouse. Through the challenges of public scrutiny, complicated family dynamics, and personal losses, she grew alongside her family, and she extended the family circle at every turn: with her students, military families, friends and staff at the White House, and more.

This is the story of how Jill built a family – and a life – of her own. From the pranks she played to keep everyone laughing to the traditions she formed that would carry them through tragedy, hers is the spirited journey of a woman embracing many roles.

‘WHERE THE LIGHT ENTERS’ is a candid, heartwarming glimpse into the creation of a beloved American family, and the life of a woman at its center.

Review:

I got this book a few weeks ago when Audible was having a 2-for-1 sale on select books. I voted for Biden, though I’m not his biggest fan (Being on TikTok over the summer pretty much turned me into a complete Leftist.) and I didn’t know anything about Jill Biden besides that she’s a teacher. And what that one scene of Leslie and Ben going to the White House to play Charades with Joe and Jill showed in Parks and Rec.

So, all I knew about Jill Biden was that she was a teacher, and that she thought Leslie Knope was too competitive.

Jill is an extraordinary woman. Her story follows her from her family background and childhood to her rebellious teenaged years (which to her time as the Second Lady of the United States being a rebellious teenager (which was my favorite thing, honestly) to the Second Lady (This was written before the 2020 election!) of the United States. It shows how she and Joe met (which might be my all-time favorite meet-cute, oh my God.) and how she became a mother to his sons (Fun fact, Joe proposed FIVE times before Jill agreed to marry him.)

I loved how this book was written, and since I listened to it on Audible, I got to hear Jill her story herself. I learned so much about her, Joe, and the rest of the Biden family (If a Biden is reading this, please adopt me.). She is down to earth, and takes her jobs as mother, grandmother, teacher, wife, and Second Lady very seriously. But never ever reluctantly. The way that she speaks of the work that she does, and the way she speaks about her family shows how much she loves all of it, despite the difficulties she experiences attimes.

This book is a beautiful story of how The Bidens we see in the White House became a family. It’s a story of loss and grief, of new beginnings, of faith, but mostly of love.

Recommended For: Anyone who voted for Biden and people who love stories of close and loving families.

Rating: 5 out of 5.

4 stars · Book Reviews · Reading · Uncategorized · young adult

Review | With the Fire on High

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With the Fire on High by Elizabeth Acevedo
Quill Tree Books, 2019
Young Adult
400 pages
4/5 Stars

GoodReads Synopsis:

With her daughter to care for and her abuela to help support, high school senior Emoni Santiago has to make the tough decisions, and do what must be done. The one place she can let her responsibilities go is in the kitchen, where she adds a little something magical to everything she cooks, turning her food into straight-up goodness. Still, she knows she doesn’t have enough time for her school’s new culinary arts class, doesn’t have the money for the class’s trip to Spain — and shouldn’t still be dreaming of someday working in a real kitchen. But even with all the rules she has for her life — and all the rules everyone expects her to play by — once Emoni starts cooking, her only real choice is to let her talent break free.

Review:

So, this was a hard book for me to rate. I went between four and five stars no less than three times, I swear. I really enjoyed it. The audiobook was incredible, and the imagery and descriptions really transported me. I loved the story. I loved the characters.

But. The ending disappointed me. I’m not sure what it is, exactly, it’s a fine ending!

I just felt like something was missing. It left me really wanting more in terms of Emoni’s journey, and not in a good way.

Besides that, though, I really enjoyed the book. I loved Pretty Leslie’s redemption arc, and when Emoni was cooking, I could truly feel her love and passion for expressing herself through food and creating food that moves people.

Perfect for aspiring chefs, foodies, and fans of ‘Waitress’ the musical.

Rating: 4 out of 5.

4 stars · Book Reviews · Reading · young adult

Review | The Girls I’ve Been

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The Girls I’ve Been by Tess Sharpe
G.P. Putnam’s Sons Books for Young Readers, 2021
Young Adult
336 pages
4/5 Stars

Trigger Warnings: violence, abuse.

GoodReads Synopsis

Nora O’Malley’s been a lot of girls. As the daughter of a con-artist who targets criminal men, she grew up as her mother’s protégé. But when mom fell for the mark instead of conning him, Nora pulled the ultimate con: escape.

For five years Nora’s been playing at normal. But she needs to dust off the skills she ditched because she has three problems:

#1: Her ex walked in on her with her girlfriend. Even though they’re all friends, Wes didn’t know about her and Iris.

#2: The morning after Wes finds them kissing, they all have to meet to deposit the fundraiser money they raised at the bank. It’s a nightmare that goes from awkward to deadly, because:

#3: Right after they enter bank, two guys start robbing it.

The bank robbers may be trouble, but Nora’s something else entirely. They have no idea who they’re really holding hostage…

Review

I’m usually not a thriller reader, but when I saw this on Instagram, I knew I had to read it. A reformed con AND bisexual representation?? I don’t know, that sounds pretty perfect to me.

And I was NOT disappointed. This book had me on the edge of my seat wondering what was going to happen next. It was absolutely incredible to watch Nora use the lessons she’d learned from the girls she’d been (get it?!) to save her and her friends’ lives. She is clever, crafty and quick, and because of her past, she has future.

I also LOVED Nora’s relationships with Wes and Iris. The night before the story starts, Wes, Nora’s ex-boyfriend (who had suggested Iris was interested in a relationship with Nora, and whose relationship with Nora ended because of a lack of honesty) walked in on Nora and Iris. I really appreciated that Wes wasn’t upset because his ex was moving on, or was with a girl, but because he and Nora were close friends, and she didn’t tell him. Also because he knew that Nora hadn’t been honest with Iris about her past yet. But it wasn’t anything to do with his pride, and only concern for his friendship with Nora and Nora and Iris’ relationship. Wes said no toxic masculinity in this house.

I also appreciated seeing Nora in therapy. Although she couldn’t be completely honest in her sessions, (because, you know, her life was in danger.) it was really powerful to see her trying to work through her trauma in such a healthy environment.

I absolutely loved this book. Here’s to hoping for a sequel in which we get to see Nora (with the help of Iris and Wes, because let’s be honest, they’re perfect) taking down more of her demons.

Perfect for Reputation era stans,

Rating: 4 out of 5.

5 Stars · Book Reviews · literary fiction

Book Review: “The End of the Affair”

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The End of the Affair by Graham Greene
Audible Audio, 2012 (first published in 1951)
Literary Fiction
Audiobook (6.5 hours listening time)
5/5 Stars

Trigger Warnings: Infidelity, Character Illness and Death, Catholicism

GoodReads Synopsis:

Graham Greene’s evocative analysis of the love of self, the love of another, and the love of God is an English classic that has been translated for the stage, the screen, and even the opera house. Academy Award-winning actor Colin Firth (“The King’s Speech”, “A Single Man”) turns in an authentic and stirring performance for this distinguished audio release.

The End of the Affair, set in London during and just after World War II, is the story of a flourishing love affair between Maurice Bendrix and Sarah Miles. After a violent episode at Maurice’s apartment, Sarah suddenly and without explanation breaks off the affair. This very intimate story about what actually constitutes love is enhanced by Mr. Firth’s narration, who said “this book struck me very, very particularly at the time when I read it and I thought my familiarity with it would give the journey a personal slant.”

Review:

This was at least my third time reading it, the first time being in one of my English classes in college. I own the Audible audiobook that’s narrated by Colin Firth, so that makes it even better!

When I read the book in college, I was a devout Catholic, and I absolutely adored it. It became my favorite book overall, and when I decided to reread it recently, I wondered if it would live up to how I remembered it, even though I’m no longer a devout Catholic.

And ya’ll… it did. Even as a non-practicing Catholic, the book blew me away. The writing is incredible, the characters are all just unlikable enough, but not too unlikable, and the role that Catholicism plays in the story and lives of the main characters is more than just a advertisement for the religion. The story is filled with mess, and stickiness, and love, and hatred, and humanity.

Something that’s kind of cool about me is that I’ve had the same GoodReads account for over ten years, so I could see that my original rating for this book was five stars. I’m happy to report back that over five years after I initially read it… it still gets five stars from me. This book is flawless in my eyes, and further amplified by Colin Firth’s incredible narration.

Rating: 5 out of 5.

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monthly wrap-ups · Reading

February 2021 Reading Wrap-Up

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Breakdown:

6 books in total
4.7 star average
50% were audiobooks
33% were re-reads
50% were written by cis-female authors
33% were written by authors of color
17% were written by (out) LGBTQI+ authors

Harry Potter and the Half-Blood Prince by She Who Shall Not Be Named

Rating: 5 out of 5.

Read January 24th – February 3rd

One of my favorite books in the series. During my re-read, I realized that may be because everyone is horny AF.

Crazy Rich Asians by Kevin Kwan

Rating: 4 out of 5.

Read January 25h – February 11th

This had been sitting on my TBR for a good year before I finally got to it. I had already seen the movie, and wanted to dive deeper into the world created in the movie. I can’t wait to continue the series! Purchase on Amazon here.

Black Buck by Mateo Askaripour

Rating: 4 out of 5.

Read February 11th – February 19th

This was such an enjoyable book, and probably contains one of the most wildest and engaging endings I’ve ever read. Buy on Amazon here.

Harry Potter and the Deathly Hallows by She Who Shall Not Be Named

Rating: 5 out of 5.

Read February 11th – February 22nd

Obviously there are some parts I don’t love, especially re-reading as an informed adult, but overall I think it ties up the story nicely.

Red, White, & Royal Blue by Casey McQuiston

Rating: 5 out of 5.

Read February 20th – February 23rd

This is one of my ew favorite books and book couples! It was also my first time reading a Rom-Com (my favorite genre) featuring a LGBTQI+ couple, so it made me feel so seen and valid. Buy on Amazon here.

The Power of Vulnerability by Brene Brown

Rating: 5 out of 5.

Read February 22nd – February 24th

This was such a great book! It has lots of good advice regarding overcoming shame and embracing vulnerability! I can’t wait to read more of Brene’s books in the future! Buy on Amazon here.

college · Lifestyle

15 Things You Should Know Before Your College Graduation

As March comes to a close, college students are probably around half way through their Spring semester. For some, this is their last semester before graduation. That means job applications and interviews, and sleepless nights wondering what the heck they’re supposed to do after they get their degree. Life after graduation is scary and unexpected, I’m not going to lie. It’s filled with regrets and fear, but also a lot of pride and strength. I’m sure I’ll sound ancient by admitting this… but this year will be five years since my college graduation, and I still miss and think about it every day.

I think about how young I was, how scared for the future, how unsure and timid and self conscious. And I wish I could go back and tell myself that it’ll all be okay, and give myself advice. But, I can’t. So, I thought I’d share with the Class of 2021 instead.

It’s Okay to Change Your Mind.

When I was in college, I didn’t really know what I wanted to do as a career. I knew that I loved to write and that I was good at it, but I also knew that making a career out if it could be hard. So I decided to do the Disney College Program after I graduated and worked retail for a year. Now, I’m finally going after my writing dreams. It’s okay if you start down one path, before realizing what you really want from life.

Student Loans are Absolutely Terrifying, Oh my God.

I am so in debt because of my student loans, and I haven’t really started paying them yet, because I don’t make enough money. Just know that YIKES. Student Loans are terrifying and stressful.

You Might Regret Some of Your Choices. It Doesn’t Matter.

You might look back at some of the things you did in college or post-grad life with regret. You might even say you would go back and do differently. But the truth of the matter is you can’t. As Timon says in The Lion King, “Put your past behind you.” The only thing you have control over is what you do next.

Figuring Out Where to Live is Overwhelming.

I lived in a dorm for all 4 years of college, so moving into my first apartment and figuring out rent and going grocery shopping was a lot. That’s okay. It is a lot. Be patient with yourself, and know that the first time is the hardest. It gets so much easier after that.

You Aren’t Going to Stay in Contact With, or Friends With All of Your College Friends. And That’s Okay.

People Change. People Grow. People Move Away. You may lose contact with some of the people you considered your closest friends in college and though it’s sad, it’s a normal part of growing up.

Sometimes, It’s Okay to Think in the “Short Term”.

You don’t always have to think of decisions as being made for the rest of your life. Actually, you very rarely have to (unless you’re making a very big purchase or getting a tattoo or something). When you accept your first out of college job, it’s okay to only plan on staying there for a year, or only have a plan for a year. Taking it one step at a time is a great way of avoiding overwhelm.

You Might Feel Like The Unsuccessful One Among Your College Friends. You’re Not.

When I graduated, I did an internship at a theme park. Most of my friends began their careers, or started grad school. Many of my friends are married, and starting families. I am no where near that point in life. Success and happiness looks different for everyone.

You Might Miss Your Classes.

This was one of the biggest shocks to me after graduating: I missed going to class. I miss doing homework. I miss sitting in class with my classmates discussing books and analyzing what the author meant. Maybe it’s just me…

Making Friends After College is Hard.

As an awkward, anxious, introvert… I am terrible at making friends. But college made it easy. Living in a dorm and going to clubs that had to do with my interests definitely helped. I also went to a teeny tiny school that had a big family feel. After I graduated… I’ve met 99% of my friends through work… and okay maybe 100%. It is so hard to meet people after graduating, and the global pandemic definitely hasn’t helped.

There is Absolutely Nothing Like College Friends.

Sometimes, I can’t even believe that I used to be able to walk 4 doors down, or even across campus to see my closest friends. Now, my friends are scattered all over the country, but I’m so grateful for the four years we spent together. They were there the first time I accidentally got drunk, and made sure I got food in me. They were there when I wasn’t drinking because I was having a depressive episode, and made sure to check in on me and make sure I had something nonalcoholic to drink at parties. They were there to support me and sencourage me when I went on medical leave my senior year, and also at the end of every semester when I broke down during finals week.

Your College Degree is Both Priceless and Worthless.

Sometimes when I’m scrolling through Indeed, I’m taken by how many jobs require Bachelors Degrees, and how little they pay. Yes, you a Bachelors Degree for many basic careers nowaday, and it is not seen as an advantage anymore. In my experience, it’s been seen as the bare minimum.

It’s Okay to Feel Confused and Doubtful.

Adulthood is big and scary and overwhelming. It’s okay if you second guess yourself. More people are feeling the same way than you would think.

What You Choose to Do After Graduation Will Not Define The Rest of Your Life.

It is never too late to do something new.

If You Want to Go to Grad School, Do it as Soon as Possible.

One of my biggest regrets is not going to Grad School immediately after getting my Bachelors Degree. If I had the chance to go, I still would try to. But time moves faster than you expect and suddenly… you’ve been out of school for five years.

You’re Going to Be Okay.

Everything is going to work out the way that it’s supposed to in the end.

4 stars · Book Reviews · Feminism · literary fiction

Book Review: “The Handmaid’s Tale”

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The Handmaid’s Tale by Margaret Atwood
Audible Studios, 2017
Literary Fiction
4/5 Stars

Trigger Warnings:

GoodRead Synopsis:

After a violent coup in the United States overthrows the Constitution and ushers in a new government regime, the Republic of Gilead imposes subservient roles on all women. Offred, now a Handmaid tasked with the singular role of procreation in the childless household of the enigmatic Commander and his bitter wife, can remember a time when she lived with her husband and daughter and had a job, before she lost everything, even her own name. Despite the danger, Offred learns to navigate the intimate secrets of those who control her every move, risking her life for mere glimpses of her former freedom, and records her story for future listeners.

Review:

Rating: 4 out of 5.

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